In Goddess We Trust

Cosmic Cunnilingus  by J. Devi


Part 1: Sacred Slut Suggestions for
Getting  a Good Licking        

One of the greatest artistic challenges in the fine art of fucking a woman is the act of cunnilingus.  The act of licking the lips that never speak.   When done well, it can be one of the most sublime pleasures on Earth.     When received well, the rapport can generate a portal to other dimensions, hence the name, ‘Cosmic Cunnilingus.’ 
 
All too often however, it ends up being irritating for the one being licked and a jaw breaker for the one doing the licking.  One big reason for this, I suspect, is that we rarely hear from the lips that never speak, and thus never learn to read lips, so to speak, and so figure they are mute and can’t communicate at all.  
However, cunnilingus is a mystery to many because there is an art to getting a good licking, just as much as there is to giving one.  So here are a few basic tips and then a few advanced ones.

Active Receiving:  Exquisite cunnilingus experiences are not simply given to one by another, like an object.  It takes effort and a certain degree of mastery over ones own body and movements.   I know it screws up that active/passive paradigm, but getting the most of a talented tongue requires a bit of effort.  Not effort in the athletic sense but in focus, feedback and fine muscle control.  

Focus and Presence: Being licked means allowing your clitoris to be the focal point of all activity.  Not only must you be present in your body, you must allow your clit to become the center of your world, and believe for that moment, your clitoris is the bindi of your universe. 

Intent: It helps to know that being licked needn’t be thought of as just foreplay.  It can take you to orgasm again and again and again.  It can be the springboard to the orgasmic wave where every flick of the tongue gives rise to yet another orgasm.  But if you want to ride these waves, you must know how to surf with your body.

Muscle Control:   Fine motor control of the pelvic region is essential for several important reasons.  Given that the clit is often about the size of a pearl, and a tongue only has a radius of a few inches, it’s impossible to stay on the sweet spot with too much hip movement.   Not only does that tendency to rock the pelvis make it difficult for the licker to keep the tongue in one place, but it can be murder on their neck.    Romping rodeo rides might release a lot of tension, but they’re dangerous in this situation and they won’t get you too far orally since at best you have intermittent contact with the clit.   Impulses to rock those hips would be better spent by working the inner muscles and making subtle movements. 

Minor Adjustments in position can make an enormous difference in being able to get just the right spot.  Since the lickee is far more likely to know just what that spot is, it is far easier for her to make the adjustments.  Often, a slight shift or tensing certain inner muscles is all that is needed to turn a frustrating fuck into an escalator to ecstasy.  I find it helps to allow the body to move in subtle sinewy wavelike undulations. Stiff or angular positions are far more likely to block the flow.   It feels as though this slight rhythmic motion. 

Let Your Fingers Do the Talking: Cunnilingus connoisseurs, unless they are both psychic, must work out a system of communication, if for no other reason, because the licker’s ears are often buried in thighs.  Being “ear-muffed” in this way can block out even the loudest of screams, thus making a non-verbal system of communication infinitely more practical.

My official Sacred Slut recommendation is to signal the licker via head controls much like you would a steering wheel.  Assuming your hands are free to touch your partner’s head, position them in such a way that the fingers touch the head lightly and are evenly spaced at various points on the skull, just not in an eye or ear.  Signal your partner by using your fingers like directionals, i.e., more to this side, higher, lower, etc.  It’s also easy to signal faster or slower, harder, lighter, etc.  Just a cautionary note: avoid gouging your lover’s ears or eyes in a fit of passion.  This will greatly enhance the likelihood that they will want to do it again.   One advantage of using this system (or something that serves this purpose) is that there is feedback that has a greater chance of being received and responded to.  It may take a bit of practice, but once a signal system is established, it can become second nature.  This helps both parties to achieve a state of “no-mind” and develop a deeper trust and rapport.  

Easy Access: One key to getting a good licking is to make it as easy as possible for your partner to dive on in.  One reason cunnilingus is called “Muff Diving” has to be related to the need to come up for air.   All too often, after making the descent, being buried in legs, lips and voluptuous hips up to one’s nose makes oxygen harder to acquire.  In fact, a nose snorkel would be a handy thing to have sometimes.  It helps to position yourself so your partner has easy access to air.  That could mean using a sling, elevating the hips or positioning oneself at the edge of the bed, or using a few pillows under the butt.  For instance, if the licker kneels at the edge of the bed, the angle to access the clit is less stressful on the licker’s neck, and it also decreases the chance of air intake being blocked by a belly or thigh.

Fluff the Muff:  While it may take a bite out of spontaneity, it may be worth your while to wash up before being dinner.  Since not everyone uses Quilted Northern Toilet paper, chances are there is a little TP lint that could stand to be washed away.  And since butt cooties don’t make the best seasoning, it’s a healthy precaution to take anyway.  Washing with cold water can spoil the mood entirely, so rinse with warm and pray for the day when bidets become the new rage.

Enough with the mundane….

Cosmic Cunnilingus:  Making Contact

The difference between a pleasant sensation and a cosmic experience lies mostly with the lickee’s ability to pull the energy up to the brain while about to orgasm.  Having the control to pull the energy up, instead of letting it blow out the vagina, can indeed blast you into space where no man has gone before.  While it may sound like a heady process, I think it’s more like a trick to jolt the brain in a way that knocks out key defensive thought centers, thus allowing the
ecstatic energy that resides in all of us, to reveal itself. 

Contact happens when the consciousness of each meet and realize they are connecting, in this case, between the licker’s tongue, and your clit. In the mind’s eye, it might look like two lines of light merging, sometimes with a jolt or a spark.  There can also be a different taste or lingual sensation when the energy paths from each person are hooked up.  Sometimes it’s like putting your tongue on a 9-volt battery.  

If you can continue to stay with the feedback, and build the rapport, the energy will build towards orgasm. The next trick is channeling the orgasm’s energy.  Standard orgasms tend to stay focused in the genital region and usually end in a discharge of energy in that area.  However, by gently tensing the inner vaginal muscles, the energy from the orgasm discharge can be propelled up to the brain.  In the mind’s eye, it might look like a growing ball of energy, which if focused and willed upwards, creates a force field that contains the energy, enabling it move up the energy channels to the brain.

Rhythm, breathing, etc
Ideally, we are looking to create a circuit of high power energy from the licker to the lickee’s clit then to the brain.  When that circuit is connected there is a tremendous surge of energy in the entire field that almost acts like a jump into hyper-space.  At first it takes a lot of concentration to keep the energy within that channel, but once you get it, cunnilingus will never be the same. 

This is also a great point to include some vaginal penetration with a few fingers.  Having fingers in there receptive but relatively motionless until the flow to the brain occurs enables concentration on the clit to continue. 

Being present - seems to open the door to making contact - that moment when.  Through rapport, they can expand their consciousness together - of each other, of the Cosmos.  It helps to remain open psychically, since it will increase the likelihood of feedback being received.  If we can relax into the rhythm of this ecstatic wave – our entire body can become the wave of ecstasy.  And what a ride it can be.

Like fine tuning stringed instrument, to make it sing, you have to maintain the right tension. Focus on pulling the energy up from the vagina and up the spine.  This helps to keep the body from rocking out of control and short circuiting.  This is not to say don’t rock; just make the movement far more subtle.   Instead of your hips hopping around like the tip of a flag in the wind, make your clit the pole the activity flows around. So practice those kegels and squeeze the inner muscles of the vagina whenever you think of it.  You may even give yourself a nice buzz in the process.

Coming Soon:  Part 2 - Tips on Kissing the Lips that Never Speak

 One of the more frustrating things about fucking women is that not only do tastes vary from woman to woman, (?) but even individual needs vary according to menstrual cycles as well.  So it’s good to have a way to navigate these tides. Ultimately, it is a refined rapport, knowing each others skills and tastes, to the extent that you know you will get exactly what works that makes for some of the most exquisite cunnlingual experiences. 

Assuming both are open to sharing consciousness this way, the more you both get that you are connecting, the stronger the energy gets within the entire field.

to be continued............
In Goddess We Trust - works by J. Devi